Need to touch up your flirting know-how? Take a peek below at
Fast Impressions ten hot tips for speed dating success:
Girls click here for your top 10 speed dating tips
Guys, read on ...
TEN HOT TIPS FOR GUYS
Dating expert Rebecca Attenborough from
Fast Impressions, Speed Dating with Style reveals how to make sure your speed-date is a night to remember.
1) Look approachable
Ladies love a guy with a smile, so ask yourself, do you look approachable? Sitting like an ice king will not attract the ladies, you may unconsciously be giving out 'no go' signals when secretly you are lusting for the hot lady you've got your eyes on to approach you. Check what you are giving off and if it's not getting results you want, adjust it.
2) Keep your hands to yourself
There's nothing worse than a guy who invades your personal space when you've only just met them. Even when engaging in a casual chat some people just seem to get too close for comfort. Avoid invading a woman's personal space until you have figured out more about them — she'll certainly respect you more for it.
3) What's the topic?
Keep your conversation topic light-hearted, and read her signals - a sure fire way to send a lady to the land of nod is to talk about your latest root canal or how many beers you drank at the football last week. If her gaze is starting to drift elsewhere it's probably time to change the subject. Ask her about her interests — people like people who are interested in them. You don't have to shut up entirely but when you engage someone in conversation make sure you spend at least 60 percent of the time listening to THEM!
4) Laugh and the world laughs with you
Having a good time is infectious and who doesn't love being around positive, upbeat people. Spread good feelings and get yourself into the right state of mind for making a fast impression. Focus on positive things and keep the conversation fun, light and frothy. Feel good about yourself and you'll find people will be drawn to you.
5) Get into the mood
The most important component of successful flirtation is being in the right mood for flirting. Good flirts are playful and don't take themselves too seriously — look at James Bond for instance. You need to see people not as something to be 'dealt with' — try and see them as a gateway to new exciting, adventures.
6) The dreaded pick up lines
'Aren't your legs tired? Because you've been running through my mind all night ...'. Many women will have heard some of these terrible pick-up clichés before. It won't do you any favours guys. There is no such thing as a ready to wear line. Each 'line' should be a genuine sentiment of what happening at the moment. Sometimes the simplest opening gambits are the best. Sometimes by paying attention to the person you want to flirt with and noticing their good points, you will come up with a natural and successful line.
7) We all get rejected
Sometimes things don't work out for whatever reason. The reality is that everyone has experienced rejection in one area of their life. Don't dwell on negative responses, instead look out for compliments, take them in and shrug off rejection.
8) Let your body do the talking
The key to successful flirting is understanding body language. When we meet someone for the first time its not just what we say but is in fact what our bodies are up to that can help attract people to us. Communication is 60 per cent non-verbal and only 40 per cent verbal, so watch what your body is saying. Researchers say you can heighten your powers of attraction by about 70 per cent if you can improve your body talk.
9) Flirt
Everybody knows that the eyes are the windows to the loins. The mating dance all starts with a glance. So catch someone's eye and hold their gaze half a second longer than normal: one second in total. Then look away, look coy and then look again, this time with a more meaningful glance and a slight smile.
10) Read her signs
Think you've met your speed-dating match? If you're wondering whether the hottie you've had your eye on all night is also just as
in to you. It's time to read the signs ...
If she's smiling and doing a few of these, chances are, she really is keen on you:
- Sidelong glances
- Looks at you a few times
- Holds your gaze briefly, then looks away
- Tilts her head, touches her neck, hair and lips when talking to you
- Turns her body towards you
- Narrows her eyes slightly into an eye smile
